A for absolutely perfect
There is no such thing as a perfect mum and we all need to stop putting pressure on ourselves to do everything. It doesn’t matter if the dishes have to wait to the morning or if you haven’t lost any baby weight six months later…it isn’t possible to do it all so don’t be hard on yourself.
B for breastfeeding
It’s not easy…in fact it’s really hard and is really quite stressful. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself if you don’t get the hang of it. It’s not the end of the world and as long as baby is being fed then that’s all that matters.
C for clueless
Nobody has an idea of what they are doing first time. Nothing can prepare you for motherhood.
D for don’t be hard on yourself
We are our own worst critics and will always put pressure on ourselves. Give yourself credit…you not only made and carried a little being for 9 months, you have just bought them into the world! That’s amazing when you think about it! Your body is unbelievable so don’t be too hard on it.
E for emergency c-section
These do happen and, realistically, you can’t write off that this will never happen to you. I never expected it to happen to myself and it freaked me out when I was taken into theatre. Chances are your birth will go to plan but you can’t rule out that things don’t always go the way you want so don’t believe that birth plan is set in stone.
F for fear
You will never have been more fearful in your life. You will find yourself checking they are breathing every ten minutes and making sure everything is sterilised to within an inch of its life. A thermometer will become your best friend and when they ask if you have any questions at the weigh in you will reel off a list as long as your arm.
G for guilt
You feel guilt about everything!
H for hormones
We all have them, we have been fighting them for years yet you never realise just how much they can mess you up until baby is here. Prepare for tears and a lot of them!
I for isolating
Having a newborn can feel very isolating, especially when your partner goes back to work. Make sure you try and get out and about, even if it’s just for a walk, as feeling lonely is not nice.
J for jealousy
Sometimes your other half will get jealous at the fact they are no longer your priority and they have to share you.
K for keep going/don’t give up
When it all feels too much and you start to think you can’t do it anymore, remember every new mum has felt that way and it’s completely normal. Don’t let yourself give up…you will get there and when you do it will feel amazing!
L for love
It’s true what they say…you will never feel love like you do that moment you meet your little one for the first time.
M for money
…or lack of it. If it wasn’t expensive enough getting everything together for little ones arrival than wait until you are paying for nappies, buying formula and replacing their wardrobe most weeks as they just won’t stop growing!
N for nipping
There will no longer be any nipping of any kind. No nipping to the shop, no nipping to the toilet. Everything is a well thought through, lengthy process!
O for overwhelmed
This was something I felt straight away when Ted was born. The mixture of love, tiredness and slight shell shock as to what had just happened left me feeling very overwhelmed.
P for poo
Obviously a baby will need a lot of nappy changes but nothing quite prepares you for that first nappy change. When people say it’s like tar they are not kidding.
Q for quit snapping/nagging/moaning
You will do all of these things. Whether it’s due to tiredness or hormones, you will find yourself doing one of the above.
R for romance
There will be little time for any romance once baby is here. In fact a newborn will have the most perfect timing that will ruin any chance of it. What do you mean stinking of baby sick isn’t romantic?
S for strain
A newborn baby will be a massive strain on your relationship. No matter how many times you plan not to argue and to ignore any snarky remarks, tiredness completely takes over and you will snap.
T for tempting
It’s very tempting to believe every other mum is doing a better job than you and to compare yourselves to them. In reality, most mums are struggling, some just hide it very well.
U for underwear
I wish I had known to pack Bridget Jones style pants in my hospital bag. If you end up having a c-section, the last thing you will want is your ordinary underwear. The top of regular panties sits right where your scar will be and its a recipe for disaster. Learn from my mistake and take some big pairs…just in case!
V for vomit
There will be vomit and a lot of it. Prepare to be projectiled on.
W for worrying
This will be something you will find yourself constantly doing about everything!
X for x-pectations
Everyone will have opinions on how you are parenting and expectations of what you should be like. Ignore what other people say and just believe in yourself and your own instincts!! You know your little one better than anyone.
Y for you time
It’s so important to make a little you time. You aren’t just someone mother, you do still have a life of your own and it’s important to not neglect yourself.
Z for zzzzz’s
If you think you have been extremely tired before than think again. You will experience a level of sleep deprivation that you couldn’t possibly imagine!