We are told that, as young girls, we should hate other girls who appear to be more amazing than ourselves. Thanks to the many awful high school movies out there, we grow up believing there can only be one fashionable/cool girl, one pretty girl and one clever girl in a group etc. in any group of people. The rest are just tag alongs or worse…seen as the ‘fat friend’. Girls are consistently pitted against each other or put down by the media, and it’s no surprise that this is taken right through into motherhood and mums then feel the need to compete with each other or worse, put each other down.
The amount of hate I have seen since becoming a Mum is really quite scary. We should be uniting and supporting, not trying to get one up on each other. The sheer amount of Mum guilt you experience when you earn your Mama badge is more than enough to deal with let alone other Mum’s making you feel even worse. What any Mother choses for her child is the best thing for that child. There is no manual. It is hard work and there will be plenty of tears, but what you are doing is right and don’t let anyone tell you differently. Especially those who don’t even have children. I tell you what…there is nothing worse than receiving parenting advice from someone who has never even had a child!
The key to eliminating mum hate is to just f**k what the others say and to love yourself and be proud of your decisions. When no body cares what people have to say anymore, their remarks become redundant. We have all felt threatened by other women at some point in our lives. That girl who struts into the room like she’s the hottest thing in the world? That girl is confident with who she is and owns it. At one stage, I would of hated her but now I admire that sense of confidence. It’s this confidence that makes other peoples remarks and comments impenetrable. What works is learning to take that delicious and abundant love that you pour into your children and turn it in on yourself too. Believe in your ability and your decisions. Treat yourself every now and then. Focus on all the things you have done and ignore all the rest. Got up, ready and dressed today…hell yeah! A few stray peas made it into the child’s mouth despite the rest of the plate being thrown over the floor…winning! A positive attitude makes for a positive Mama and a positive Mama has the confidence to ignore what other’s have to say!
So Mama’s lets unite, stop putting each other down and eliminate the Mum hate! The world would be a so much better place for it!