3 Things I Have Learnt In My First Year Of Being In The Mama Club

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Ted is now 13 months old – where has that time gone – so I have had my Mama badge for over a year now. Becoming a mother was a surprise to me, a complete and utter shock maybe. Some may say ‘was he a mistake?’ but there is no way on earth I will ever see it that way. I can honestly say with my hand on my heart that Ted is the single best thing that has ever happened to me and becoming his mama filled a gap in my life that I didn’t even realise was empty. This is what I am meant to do.

Motherhood is amazing but it is also really hard too. It is filled with just as much competitiveness and judgement as it is love and joy. Every Mama’s view of motherhood is different but these are the three most important things I have learnt in my first year!

Trust your gut instinct.

No one will know your child better then you so don’t let anyone tell you any different. If people shove their advise down your neck, smile blankly an agree and let it go in one ear and out of the other. Do not let it upset you. We have all been the ones frantically searching google at god knows what hour, trawling baby forums for one questions after another. You will be bombarded with guidelines, old wive’s tales and so many clashing opinions you won’t know what to do. What is key to remember is that you are that little bundle of joy’s mama and it will be you that spends every second with them – only you will know them best! Take comfort in what your gut is telling you and don’t back down if you aren’t getting the answers you need. Keep trusting yourself! You know what you are doing!

Every child is different.

One thing that really took me by surprise was just how competitive motherhood is. From word go other parents will be trying to one up you and it is so important to not let them get to you. Just remember that every child develops differently, does different things and is beautifully individual. It starts with the amount of sleep you are getting, then rolling over, crawling etc…there will always be something people want to beat you to. Be proud of their achievements whenever they achieve them because there are things they will be faster and slower at. Your child is absolutely perfect the way they are. Don’t wish milestones away trying to compete with others.

Becoming a Mother will change you.

Whether it changes you just slightly or changes you completely. I preached on about how becoming a mother would not change me. Absolutely determined that I would still be me. which I am, however I am Mum now too and I have honestly changed. My whole outlook on life has changed, my priorities, before it was ASOS parcels turning up on my door step these days its more likely to be Zara Kids. Before I would of been going out to loud bars, dancing until the early hours without a care in the world. These days you re far more likely to find me tucked away in a cosy corner of a local cafe or taking a stroll in the park. Both however do involve waking up feeling exhausted and slightly disorientated but for very different reasons now.  As soon as that baby is handed to you they are you whole world, you will always put them before yourself and your needs. You can’t stop it from changing you. It’s inevitable.

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Bear’s First Birthday

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I still can’t quite believe I have a one year old. Where has the time gone? As much as I miss my brand new baby boy, I am also really excited about all the things to come with having a one year old. Ted is all of a sudden a proper little boy and it’s so exciting to think about what he could do next. It’s like he’s turned one and suddenly he is starting to try and say so many more words, is getting really good at copying (better be careful with what I say and do now) and understanding and is definitely not too far off walking. Let the fun commence! One thing I have really taken out of Ted turning one is just how much better he makes life and how grateful I am to have been blessed with him. Being a Mama is the best job in the world and I am proud of everything I have achieved in the past year. I can’t say it has always been easy and I would be lying if I told you I hadn’t been winging it most of the time, but it is the most rewarding thing I have ever done and I count myself lucky everyday to have been given the opportunity. It’s funny because a year before Ted was born I was being told I may never be able to have children. My heart well and truly sank that day and I cried a lot. And I mean A LOT.  It’s safe to say it was just a bit of a surprise/shock to find out I was pregnant a few months later after thinking that day may never come. Now I have had a whole year with my bear and I literally cannot put into words how grateful I am that the consultant was wrong.

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We had such a lovely day and it was so nice to see just how loved and cared for my little boy is. He was on such good form considering he has been poorly recently so it was really nice to see him smiling and playing and generally being gorgeous with everyone. The sun was shining and everything seemed to be chilled and fell into place nicely. We decided against throwing a big party as we thought it would be far nicer to just go on a day trip as a three and visit close family either side of it. I felt so guilty leading up to his birthday because I hadn’t gone all out and planned some spectacular get together but, actually, it worked out perfectly and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I’m going to save the big party for his next birthday, he will be far more active then – too active maybe. It just goes to show that all you need in life is to be surrounded by the ones you love and the weather to be on your side and you can have the most fantastic day.

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Cake – Marks and Spencer | Cake Topper and Decorations – Meri Meri |One Tshirt and Crown – Acute Thing

To My Bear On Your First Birthday

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To my teddy bear,

Wow, I can’t get over how quickly that year has gone. It is crazy to think that this time last year I was only just meeting you. The day you arrived into this world is still so crystal clear that it does feel like it was only yesterday. I will cherish that overwhelming sense of love I felt when I first clocked eyes on you forever, and it is a memory that still makes me well up every time I think about it. I cant quite believe that I’m sitting here writing to my 12 month old. Gone are the days of newborn snuggles, constant feeding and that newborn smell. These days I’m lucky to get a cuddle off of you for longer than a minute as you are so busy exploring and being mr independent.

People say the days are long but the years are short, this statement couldn’t be more true. We are only 12 months into your life but you have already achieved so much. In those months of your life you have learnt to smile, sit and crawl, you are pulling yourself up and standing so strong and you proudly say Mama, Dada and Dog to every four legged friend that walks by. You have celebrated your first halloween, Christmas and your christening with all your family and friends and you have been so very lucky to be surrounded by people who love you and would do anything for you every step of the way. Teddy you are so loved!

 You are in every which way a boisterous boy, you like rough and tumble and you have no fear but you still like a snuggle with your mama – thank goodness. You HATE shoes, socks and wearing trousers. You would much rather be crawling about in your vest or even less if you could. You have many toys but you just love anything noisy or musical. I love how much music brings you to life, how you throw your hands up in the air and bob up and down to any tune. You are full of mischief and fun, and have already perfected that ‘it wasn’t me look’ that is instantly given away by your very cheeky yet slightly dirty laugh. My gosh Teddy you have the best, most infectious laugh.

To say you are growing up too fast would be the understatement of the year, you are so tall and strong, it must be all of those yogurts you eat as you definitely didn’t get your height from your dad or I. I swear every time I look at you you seem to have grown another inch. I try my very hardest to let you be independent but its hard, you have so much confidence and determination to do exactly what you want and I love that but sometimes mama wants to help you because you are still my baby and always will be. Whether you like it or not!

I would never wish a second of your life away but sometimes I sit and think what you might be when you grow older a teacher? An astronaut? Will you find the cure for cancer?  I think about where you might go and who you might be? I just want you to know that I want you to be exactly who you want to be and I will always hold your hand every step of the way. You will achieve anything you put your mind too, I can see that already. I am so very proud to call myself your Mum.

My bear, thank you for teaching me the true meaning of unconditional love. You have taught me more than you will ever know. Thank you for making my mama heart melt daily, thank you for being my darling boy and thank you for being just you.

Happy first birthday my love.

I will love you forever and more.
Your Mama x